約會的錢

<blockquote style="border-left: #999 2px solid; margin: 1em 3em; padding-left: 1em; color: #999">H.Ayaka 的話: <br /> <br /> 我約會時用餐也都是和男方均攤，除非是特殊的節日，對方表示他要請客，我會告訴他：「謝謝，下一次約會換我請。」曾被說過見外，但我覺得不管對方財富多少，身價多少，真正的男女平等就是不依賴對方，<span style="color:#FF0000;">不讓對方覺得佔被佔便宜，以免日後感情有嫌隙而被拿來說嘴</span>。</blockquote> 男女是否平等不見得要拿各付各的來體現，<br /> 但說實在話，<br /> 為了避免日後感情有問題時被拿來當攻擊的話柄，<br /> 的確是非常有其必要性。

簡單一句話  又不是情侶或夫妻<br /> 各付各的  非常合理阿<br /> <br /> 我認為是因為習慣  所以感到錯愕<br /> 但換個角度想  出去和朋友吃喝玩樂也都要各付各的了<br /> 又何必在乎這種付費的小事<br /> <br /> 現在是朋友不是嗎?  

<blockquote style="border-left: #999 2px solid; margin: 1em 3em; padding-left: 1em; color: #999">LINACHAN 的話: <br /> <br /> 若是<span style="color:#000000;">一<strong>對男女曖昧</strong></span>，男方追求中<br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;">曖昧，是雙方面的<br /> 如果女方不想被追求，女方不用跟著一起曖昧</span><br /> <br /> 都是男生約女生出去，但不常，一個月1~2次，甚至沒有，女方很少赴約<br /> 吃飯費用男生付較多<br /> <strong><span style="color:#000000;">男方月收入約10萬，女方約3萬多</span></strong><br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;">寫出收入的落差，是在誤導什麼嗎?</span><br /> <br /> 最近一次男方忽然告知女方<br /> 希望約會均攤，比較不會有壓力<br /> <br /> 其實女方並沒有不請男方<br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;">這是女方自己心裡想的? 還是維護自己立場的片面之詞?<br /> 既然要講請客，就要有實質的動作</span><br /> <br /> 但男方先開這麼說，感覺就差掉了<br /> 你們會覺得男方這樣是小氣嗎?<br /> <br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">LINACHAN  的話: </span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">其實女方本來想給男方機會的</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">畢竟也認識很多年了</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color:#000000;"><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">只是女方一直愛理不理的</span></strong></span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">一年見面1~2次吧</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color:#0000CD;">女方的愛理不理<br /> 還要在意男方的小氣?<br /> 哈哈</span><br /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">但</span><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;"><strong>最近</strong></span></span><span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">女方開始覺得也許可以試著交往看看</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因此這一個多月約會了2次</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">但沒想到正想給機會時</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">男方卻傳來這樣的訊息</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">女方當場就冷掉了</span><br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">男方早就冷掉了<br /> 女方的反應也太慢了吧</span></span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">以前</span></span></strong><span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">男方是很大方的人</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">出去吃東西都會說儘量點</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因此，女方收到這樣的訊息很錯愕</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">但感覺還滿差的</span><br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">以前男方很大方，為什麼現在就不大方了?<br /> <br /> 不要只用女方的角度思考<br /> 而沒站在男方的立場想</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因為</span><strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">正打算下次出去請男方看電影或什麼的</span></span></strong><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">結果，男方好像深怕被占便宜似的</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">先開口了</span><br /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">不知道女生們收到這樣的訊息</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">會覺得算了，大家以後別再出去了</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">這男的很愛計較小氣嗎?</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">看起來女生也很愛計較小氣<br /> 要不然怎麼會只用自己的想法想這些</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">LINACHAN 的話: </span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">真的不知道為什麼男方變的如此計較</span></span></strong><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">真的是男方在計較? 還是女方的計較?</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因為兩人也認識很多年了</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">今年會再約見面</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">也是男方主動約的</span><br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">主動約就一定要請客???</span></span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">女方並沒有認為約會一定是男方出</span></span></strong><br /> <span style="color:#0000CD;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">女方有<u>明確表達</u>讓男方知道嗎?</span></span><br /> <br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">但是當對方在見面前夕</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">特別傳訊息來告知</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">好像深怕女方出去不付錢</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">這種感覺讓人很不舒服</span><br style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;" /> <span style="color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-style: italic; line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因此女方便婉拒邀約了</span></blockquote> <br /> <br /> 曖昧，是能維持多久?<br /> 好感，是能維持多久?<br /> 追求，是能維持多久?<br /> <br /> 之前男方的大方請客換來的是女<span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">方</span>的愛理不理<br /> 現在男<span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">方</span>看清了女<span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">方</span>的態度所以選擇各付各的<br /> 這也表示女方早就不在男方的追求名單了<br /> <br /> 女方，現在是要抱怨什麼?<br /> <br /> 還是說，誰主動約朋友吃飯就誰付錢?<br /> <br />  

可能價值觀不同吧?!<br /> <br /> 朋友出門AA制正常<br /> <br /> 但若是追求者的話... 不是都常常請吃飯邀約會送禮物的?!<br /> <br /> 對方有明確表示是在追求嗎?  還是已經只把妳當朋友了?

<blockquote style="border-left: #999 2px solid; margin: 1em 3em; padding-left: 1em; color: #999">潛水 的話: <br /> <br /> LINACHAN 的話: <br /> <br /> 若是<span style="color: #000000">一<strong>對男女曖昧</strong></span>，男方追求中<br /> <span style="color: #0000cd">曖昧，是雙方面的<br /> 如果女方不想被追求，女方不用跟著一起曖昧</span><br /> <br /> 都是男生約女生出去，但不常，一個月1~2次，甚至沒有，女方很少赴約<br /> 吃飯費用男生付較多<br /> <strong><span style="color: #000000">男方月收入約10萬，女方約3萬多</span></strong><br /> <span style="color: #0000cd">寫出收入的落差，是在誤導什麼嗎?</span><br /> <br /> 最近一次男方忽然告知女方<br /> 希望約會均攤，比較不會有壓力<br /> <br /> 其實女方並沒有不請男方<br /> <span style="color: #0000cd">這是女方自己心裡想的? 還是維護自己立場的片面之詞?<br /> 既然要講請客，就要有實質的動作</span><br /> <br /> 但男方先開這麼說，感覺就差掉了<br /> 你們會覺得男方這樣是小氣嗎?<br /> <br /> <br /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">LINACHAN  的話: </span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">其實女方本來想給男方機會的</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">畢竟也認識很多年了</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="color: #000000"><strong><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">只是女方一直愛理不理的</span></strong></span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">一年見面1~2次吧</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="color: #0000cd">女方的愛理不理<br /> 還要在意男方的小氣?<br /> 哈哈</span><br /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">但</span><span style="color: #000000"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif"><strong>最近</strong></span></span><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">女方開始覺得也許可以試著交往看看</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">因此這一個多月約會了2次</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">但沒想到正想給機會時</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">男方卻傳來這樣的訊息</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">女方當場就冷掉了</span><br /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">男方早就冷掉了<br /> 女方的反應也太慢了吧</span></span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <strong><span style="color: #000000"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">以前</span></span></strong><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">男方是很大方的人</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">出去吃東西都會說儘量點</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">因此，女方收到這樣的訊息很錯愕</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">但感覺還滿差的</span><br /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">以前男方很大方，為什麼現在就不大方了?<br /> <br /> 不要只用女方的角度思考<br /> 而沒站在男方的立場想</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">因為</span><strong><span style="color: #000000"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">正打算下次出去請男方看電影或什麼的</span></span></strong><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">結果，男方好像深怕被占便宜似的</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">先開口了</span><br /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">不知道女生們收到這樣的訊息</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">會覺得算了，大家以後別再出去了</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">這男的很愛計較小氣嗎?</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">看起來女生也很愛計較小氣<br /> 要不然怎麼會只用自己的想法想這些</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">LINACHAN 的話: </span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <strong><span style="color: #000000"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">真的不知道為什麼男方變的如此計較</span></span></strong><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">真的是男方在計較? 還是女方的計較?</span></span><br /> <br /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">因為兩人也認識很多年了</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">今年會再約見面</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">也是男方主動約的</span><br /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">主動約就一定要請客???</span></span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <strong><span style="color: #000000"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">女方並沒有認為約會一定是男方出</span></span></strong><br /> <span style="color: #0000cd"><span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif">女方有<u>明確表達</u>讓男方知道嗎?</span></span><br /> <br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">但是當對方在見面前夕</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">特別傳訊息來告知</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">好像深怕女方出去不付錢</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">這種感覺讓人很不舒服</span><br style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)" /> <span style="line-height: 20px; font-style: italic; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; color: rgb(153,153,153)">因此女方便婉拒邀約了</span></blockquote> <br /> <br /> 曖昧，是能維持多久?<br /> 好感，是能維持多久?<br /> 追求，是能維持多久?<br /> <br /> 之前男方的大方請客換來的是女<span style="line-height: 20px">方</span>的愛理不理<br /> 現在男<span style="line-height: 20px">方</span>看清了女<span style="line-height: 20px">方</span>的態度所以選擇各付各的<br /> 這也表示女方早就不在男方的追求名單了<br /> <br /> 女方，現在是要抱怨什麼?<br /> <br /> 還是說，誰主動約朋友吃飯就誰付錢?<br /> <br />   <blockquote> </blockquote> <br />  <img alt="cheeky" height="37" src="http://forum.fashionguide.com.tw/ckeditor/plugins/smiley/images/fg/fgicon_12.gif" title="cheeky" width="40" /><img alt="cheeky" height="37" src="http://forum.fashionguide.com.tw/ckeditor/plugins/smiley/images/fg/fgicon_12.gif" title="cheeky" width="40" /><br /> <br /> 你的回應真是深得我心啊!<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> 其實我不明白,男生希望女生分攤約會費用,為什麼由男生提出就OOXX的?一定女生要女生主動提出才有風度?<br /> <br /> 現今社會就是充滿了太多曖昧不清,很多事情事先講清楚不是很好嗎?<br /> <br /> 其實我不會覺得女生要男生約會付錢一定是什麼不對的事,只要雙方溝通好有共識是OK的.<br /> <br /> 自己認為是對的事,為什麼不能說出口?難道自己心理其實也認為不是對的事?<br /> <br /> 如果沒共識,有一方提出自己的想法,另一方也可明確提出自己的想法.<br /> <br /> <br /> 例如開板講的女生可以回答說:"我覺得你約我就該你付錢"或是"我覺得分攤很正常"<br /> <br /> 清楚的表達自己的想法不困難吧!<br /> <br /> 人與人就是很多事情不願溝通,只希望對方"理解"所以才常常發生問題......<br /> <br /> <br /> 我建議那女生就算以後不赴約,也要明白說出自己的想法.<br /> <br /> 說清楚了對方就能明白"道不同,不相為謀~"

<strong><span style="color:#000000;">有些女生 </span></strong>總會覺得 ～<br /> <br /> 因為我是女生，所以你要主動<br /> <span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因為</span>我是女生，所以你約我就是要請客<br /> 因為我是女生，所以你不能小氣愛計較<br /> <span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因為</span>我是女生，所以你要順著我的心意<br /> <span style="line-height: 20.7999992370605px;">因為</span>我是女生，所以....<br /> <br /> 現在的女生不是很常講男女平等嗎<br /> 怎麼<span style="color:#000000;"><strong>有些女生</strong></span>一講到約會或付錢的事就不平等了？<br /> <br />  

我覺得這次你出錢 下次換我出錢是比較好的方式<br /> 直接說開了給我一半的錢 感覺很計較奇檬子不太好

第一次就開口會覺得男生有點小氣<br /> 就算要開口也是女生說比較好吧

之前跟男友約會也是大部分都各付各的，<br /> 就算他要請也是很體諒他 一直說不用<br /> 我也會送他個東西什麼的<br /> 但聽到你說那個男生這樣說真的實在是會讓人頗尷尬<br /> <br />  

呃...不懂要幫女生付的點 又還沒交往

我覺得這樣還好欸~先說好比較不會有誤會阿<br /> 現在應該也很少人一定要男生付錢的吧

如果是追求中突然這麼說<br /> 我覺得要給男方拍拍手<br /> 他說實話~不是等追到手再跟你說明